I have a confession, an appology, and a question. First I must confess that after I posted this blog, I felt a little guilty. Something occured to me that didn't at the time of writing. I am not a mother!! DUH! But the reason I say this is because, me not being a mother, does that make it wrong for me to have written about motherhood, and children? Which brings me to my appology, I am sorry if I have come across assuming that things really aren't hard being a mother. Which brings me to my question, does that mean that because life is hard, and because being a mother really is a full time, intense job that it gives you the right to be selfish, and still believe that your life really is about you, and not your children? And let your bitterness harbour inside your heart, to the point where it floods the lives of your children, and your husband.
I also want to point out that, although it says otherwise in my blog, I know that the 3 women I mentioned are not saints. And have days, that they don't get along with their kids, and do feel like they can't do it anymore. But this is the difference between those 3 women (and many of you women, and amazing moms) and the mothers I saw on TV. Grace. I believe that as Christian women/mothers/sisters/daughters/friends that there is a place in our hearts that God covers with Grace. With the ability to have a strength unlike any other, and the humbleness to admit that we are wrong, or need help. The fact that we can go to the throne of God, and ask for his help, and forgiveness. I know that you Bonnie, Heidi, Jen, Stacey, Christy, Misty, Dawn have rough days, and that I am not one to sit here, and point fingers, or judge, or say that you are all perfect. Because in reality, none of us are. I don't want to put a point across and make it fake, or false. But this I do know. You are AMAZING women, mothers, and friends. I watch you with your families, your children, and your husbands, and I know that is the way the Lord intended families to be.
When I wrote that blog this was my intention; to prove that children are a blessing. The Lord said it, and wants it to be that way. But there is room for Grace, and for days when you want to rip your hair out. That the world has twisted so many of the good things in the world. But now childen? So again, I appologize if it offended anyone in thinking that it's a holiday to be a mother, but you all are doing an amazing job.
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Monday, April 27, 2009
What is going on?!
I have been watching TV lately, and I have noticed a patern. I have noticed that more and more people are talking about babies, and kids. Just two weeks ago I was watching the Oprah show, and the theme was the Mom show. And on the screen were dozen of Mom's from all over the United States. But here's the thing that desturbed me the most about this show. These Mom's weren't gloating and gushing over their beautiful babies and children. They were infact doing the exact opposite. Almost every woman was talking about how they hated to be mothers, they hated waking up every morning and having to deal with their children. It's about at this point where my jaw dropped, the anger fused inside me, and I thought I was going to exploid. WHAT! How can you say that?
One mother went as far as to say that she didn't love her husband, and actually hated him because he "did this to her." SAY WHAT! Another said that she refuses to have sex with her husband because she is so scared of getting pregnant again. Oprah proceeded to make it look like we should be feeling sorry for these women, who were going through this amazingly hard time raising children. No way sista I am not falling for that! I'm pretty sure that in my Bible it says that children are a blessing. Did I read that correctly? I couldn't believe what I was watching, and witnessing. It made me want to shut the TV off, but I couldn't do it.
Then I was watching TV the other day, but this time it was Tyra Banks. Her topic was teen pregnancy. She began the show with a stage full of girls all of whom were still virgins. She went through the stage asking every girl about their choice. Some saying that they didn't want to get pregnant. Others saying they hadn't met the right guy. And one girl said that she was saving herself for marriage. Then their friends, and or boyfriends came onto the stage, and one of the girls friends was pressuring her to have sex. Saying " just do it to get it over with." I'm sorry, are those the people that are influencing our young generation? The show continued and featured a girl who was trying to get pregnant (at 17) and lieing to her boyfriend about being on birth control. Another 5 girls sat on the couch, all pregnant, ranging from the ages of 13-19 years old.
I read in a book recently that we as girls, and woman are the essence of God. The ESSENCE! And yet young girls are being taught that it's ok to bring a baby into the world without being married, and at the age of 13. " Oh we will deal with it when it happens" HOW ABOUT NOT LETTING IT HAPPEN! As I was listening to the women complaining on Oprah about their hard lives as a Mom. And then I think about Bonnie, who at the age of 23 had twin boys. Or about her sister Jen who has a little girl that has a personality of her own, and some days Jen is very frusterated. Or about Heidi who is about to get married to a man who already has 2 boys. And I never hear anything about how hard they have it. Instead I hear nothing but praises, and love, and gushing over their babies. Today when I walked into the portable at church Samuel and Micah were there, and it took one look at them, and their smiles on their faces grew, and my heart melted! How can we as a society think that children are such a burden! How did this change, how is it so twisted!
Since I was little, I have wanted a big family, with lots of kids, and lots of people around to love on my kids. And yet I sit on the couch and watch as the world destroys the vision of children, the true purpose. If you let them, children can touch your life in a way that no other person can. If you let them into your life, you will learn so much about what it means to have faith like a child. In the same reason that a baby has so much trust in the person that is holding them. Knowing that you won't drop them. Or knowing that you love them so much, that no matter what they do, no matter was the outcome, love will still conquer.
Faith like a child, a very blessed, and loved child.
One mother went as far as to say that she didn't love her husband, and actually hated him because he "did this to her." SAY WHAT! Another said that she refuses to have sex with her husband because she is so scared of getting pregnant again. Oprah proceeded to make it look like we should be feeling sorry for these women, who were going through this amazingly hard time raising children. No way sista I am not falling for that! I'm pretty sure that in my Bible it says that children are a blessing. Did I read that correctly? I couldn't believe what I was watching, and witnessing. It made me want to shut the TV off, but I couldn't do it.
Then I was watching TV the other day, but this time it was Tyra Banks. Her topic was teen pregnancy. She began the show with a stage full of girls all of whom were still virgins. She went through the stage asking every girl about their choice. Some saying that they didn't want to get pregnant. Others saying they hadn't met the right guy. And one girl said that she was saving herself for marriage. Then their friends, and or boyfriends came onto the stage, and one of the girls friends was pressuring her to have sex. Saying " just do it to get it over with." I'm sorry, are those the people that are influencing our young generation? The show continued and featured a girl who was trying to get pregnant (at 17) and lieing to her boyfriend about being on birth control. Another 5 girls sat on the couch, all pregnant, ranging from the ages of 13-19 years old.
I read in a book recently that we as girls, and woman are the essence of God. The ESSENCE! And yet young girls are being taught that it's ok to bring a baby into the world without being married, and at the age of 13. " Oh we will deal with it when it happens" HOW ABOUT NOT LETTING IT HAPPEN! As I was listening to the women complaining on Oprah about their hard lives as a Mom. And then I think about Bonnie, who at the age of 23 had twin boys. Or about her sister Jen who has a little girl that has a personality of her own, and some days Jen is very frusterated. Or about Heidi who is about to get married to a man who already has 2 boys. And I never hear anything about how hard they have it. Instead I hear nothing but praises, and love, and gushing over their babies. Today when I walked into the portable at church Samuel and Micah were there, and it took one look at them, and their smiles on their faces grew, and my heart melted! How can we as a society think that children are such a burden! How did this change, how is it so twisted!
Since I was little, I have wanted a big family, with lots of kids, and lots of people around to love on my kids. And yet I sit on the couch and watch as the world destroys the vision of children, the true purpose. If you let them, children can touch your life in a way that no other person can. If you let them into your life, you will learn so much about what it means to have faith like a child. In the same reason that a baby has so much trust in the person that is holding them. Knowing that you won't drop them. Or knowing that you love them so much, that no matter what they do, no matter was the outcome, love will still conquer.
Faith like a child, a very blessed, and loved child.
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Remebering
This is a weekend we all remember. Some remember it because its a 4 day weekend, and others for the chocolate, and the bunnies, and the candy. But for some of us, this weekend is more than all of that. It's about remembering a point in history 2000 years ago that would change all our lives...forever. It's about a Saviour who, so unselfishly died for us all. And with 3 simple words rendered the power to with-hold all sin.
This weekend I am lucky enough to be up in 108 Mile Ranch visiting my parents. And on Good Friday, we went to a Church service. And the Pastor said something very interesting that caught my attention. He said " We remember what Jesus did for us 2000 years ago for us. But what about remembering what He does for us everyday?" WOW. Really? That simple? DUH SKYE! Jesus paid the ultimate price by dieing on that Cross, so why do we only remember that once a year? Or when we have really screwed up and we have to ask for forgiveness? Or when we are witnessing to someone, and tellling them about Him? We need to remember what Jesus did, and thank him every day. That doesn't mean that we walk around and all we talk about is Him dieing on the cross (unless of course that's the way you run things). It means that I have to be thankful that everyday, I can come to His throne, and fall at my feet and ask for forgiveness, or strength, or courage, or hope, or faith because He paid that price for ME.
I was standing on my parents porch today, looking out to 108 lake, and all the beautiful trees thinking about this crazy sacrifice. It's so peaceful up here that I forget a lot of things living in a city. Where I'm constantly rushing to get things done, and get places. Constantly trying to get ahead in life. What for?
Mathew 6:19-21 "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."
So often I find myself working so hard for the thing of this world. I forget that Jesus is my provider, and that I can do all things through Christ strengthens me. I need to remember Christ, and I need to remember what he did 2000 years ago.
Happy Easter.
This weekend I am lucky enough to be up in 108 Mile Ranch visiting my parents. And on Good Friday, we went to a Church service. And the Pastor said something very interesting that caught my attention. He said " We remember what Jesus did for us 2000 years ago for us. But what about remembering what He does for us everyday?" WOW. Really? That simple? DUH SKYE! Jesus paid the ultimate price by dieing on that Cross, so why do we only remember that once a year? Or when we have really screwed up and we have to ask for forgiveness? Or when we are witnessing to someone, and tellling them about Him? We need to remember what Jesus did, and thank him every day. That doesn't mean that we walk around and all we talk about is Him dieing on the cross (unless of course that's the way you run things). It means that I have to be thankful that everyday, I can come to His throne, and fall at my feet and ask for forgiveness, or strength, or courage, or hope, or faith because He paid that price for ME.
I was standing on my parents porch today, looking out to 108 lake, and all the beautiful trees thinking about this crazy sacrifice. It's so peaceful up here that I forget a lot of things living in a city. Where I'm constantly rushing to get things done, and get places. Constantly trying to get ahead in life. What for?
Mathew 6:19-21 "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."
So often I find myself working so hard for the thing of this world. I forget that Jesus is my provider, and that I can do all things through Christ strengthens me. I need to remember Christ, and I need to remember what he did 2000 years ago.
Happy Easter.
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